Saturday, May 09, 2009


Just a Mother???? excuse me! A few months ago, when I was picking up the children at school, another mother I knew well rushed up to me. Emily was fuming with indignation. "Do you know what you and I are?" she demanded. Before I could answer and I really didn't have an answer ready...she blurted out the reason for her question. It seemed she had just returned from renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk's office. Asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. Emily had hesitated....uncertain how to classify herself. "What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do you have a job or are you just a housewife?" "Of course I have a job," snapped Emily, "I'm a Mother. "We don't list 'Mother" as an occupation......housewife covers it." said the recorder emphatically. I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high-sounding title like "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar. "What is your occupation?" she probed. What made me say it, I don't know. The words simply popped out, "I am a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations." The clerk paused, ball point pen frozen in mid air, and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionaire. "Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?" Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply: "I have a continuing program of research (what Mother doesn't) in the laboratory and in the field (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters (the whole family) and already have four credits (all daughters)!" "Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities (any mother care to disagree)? And I often work 14 hours a day (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money. There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door. As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous career, I was greeted by my lab assistants-----ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model (6 months) in the child-development program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt triumphant! I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and dispensable to mankind than 'just another mother.' MOTHERHOOD...what a glorious career. Especially when there is a title on the door. Send this to another Mother you know. Whether a stay at home Mom or a career Mom, we should all carry this title. Does that make grandmothers, "Senior Research Associates in the field of Child Development, and Human Relations" and Great Grandmothers, "Executive Senior Research Associates?" I THINK SO! HAPPY MOTHER"S DAY!


Judy said...

Clara, I just loved this story and I love my new title! Happy Mother's Day to you, too.

bennie and patsy said...

Love it ,love it.
Happy Mother's Day

Beth said...

What a great story, Clara---I love it!

Happy Mother's Day to you, too!

grammyof13 said...

I wish I'd seen this yesterday. This is what I would have sent my daughters and daughters in law.

Good post, Happy Mothers Day to you too.

JeanMac said...

Great story.

Betsy from Tennessee said...

Happy Belated Birthday, Clara. You look incredible, by the way!!!! I've enjoyed catching up on your posts. Are the baby Carolina Wrens gone???? Did you get anymore pictures???

Loved your story about the role of mothers. It's the most important job in the world for sure!!!!!

Hope you are having a great week.

Mountain Mama said...

I love this.
My mom used to get really upset with the term 'housewife.' She would say, "I am not a 'housewife' I am not married to a house!"
I love that too!

Grammy said...

Dear Clara,
Love the story! I had to work outside the home while raising my two daughtere, and always wished I could have been "just a housewife". I know I missed a lot of those moments, but one does what one has to.

Jamie Dawn said...

Terrific story! Being a mother is one of the greatest blessings ever, and some day I hope to know the joy of being a grandmother.

JUST a mom... that story shows how important and worthy of respect a momma is.